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Stuck in a bubble?

While sitting in a workshop, a big realization dawned on me. All of us in our lives have to face every day realities. A number of these realities are a result of who we are as a person at a particular point of time.

A colleague who is disliked in office for his aggressive nature might be the most loving of friends in everyday life. And even though this person might not want to be so aggressive in the workplace, his habits formed as as result of sub conscious impulses might hold him hostage leaving him helpless and frustrated.

So how accountable are we really for our own behavior? Wise men say that discipline and mind control are the characteristics required to win over these challenges. Even then is it not purely a percentages game? Even the mightiest crumble in the face of some odds or the other. So ultimately should we not be more tolerant of ours as well as the negativities of others and instead of disliking them for these, try as far as possible to embrace them and work in the spirit of a good friend helping them and having patience with them.

For deep down those people might also be struggling within their lives just as we do.

Sounds Utopian? I agree even I find it tough to apply this in my life. But increasingly I am realizing that building negativity inside me for people I have no choice but to live with (including myself) only serves to diminish my happiness.

So let's try to change one at a time. And maybe together one day we shall succeed in lowering the overall negativity of the world as well as creating a happier, more cheerful self!

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